“Oh baby you should go and love yourself.”
Loving one’s self should definitely be practiced by each and one of us. It’s not a bad thing! In fact, studies show that people who spend time pampering themselves tend to be healthier and happier. Who among us is not guilty of stopping whenever we see a car parked, looked at its tainted windows or side mirror and check how we look?
If you are experiencing having an inordinate fascination with yourself, or an inflated sense of self importance and a deep need for admiration, then there’s a high probability that you’re a narcissist. Did you know that narcissism isn’t rare? Almost everyone has it most especially among the CEO’s, politicians, business people, and celebrities. Here are some of them.
#1: Steve Jobs
According to study, although Jobs was still seen as narcissistic, his narcissism appeared to be counterbalanced or tempered with a measure of humility, and it was this tempered narcissist who led Apple to be the most valuable company in the world.
#2: Theodore Roosevelt
Teddy Roosevelt was the 26th President of the United States. If you search on the internet, his name always appears in America’s top 5 most narcissist presidents. In an interview with his daughter, she stated that her father wanted to be the center of attention at all times. “He wanted to be the bride in the wedding and the corpse in the casket at a funeral.”
#3: Jack Welch
Jack Welch is known for being a productive narcissist. He, according to a study, did not embody the emotional intelligence and emphatic listening that many experts believe are crucial to success. Despite this, he is one of the world’s most respected and celebrated CEOs (General Electric Company). He is also known for his unmatched track record of success, fierce passion for winning, and unbridled desire to change the world for the better.
#4: Mahatma Gandhi
Gandhi was known for being deeply spiritual, deeply pious person. He was humble. He fought for the independence of India without using violence. But for all these things, he was a notorious narcissist (Maccoby, 2004). Think about it, look at the incredible grandiose of self-importance he must have had for him to think that the government would care if he starved himself!
#5: Kayne West
Kanye West is known for his outlandish and bizarre statements.West named himself Michael Jordan and he also went on record to say that he is “so much like the late Apple leader, Steve Jobs”. He also called himself a “messiah”, sent to the planet Earth and named himself “Yeezus”. He further stated that he was “in great pain” because of not being able to watch himself live in performance.
#6: Paris Hilton
Socialite, Paris Hilton is one celebrity who has become famous for her narcissistic personality. Hilton is notorious for craving the attention of the paparazzi and has shown her self-absorbed ways on her reality television shows.
#7: Donald Trump
Donald Trump has achieved a lot in his life. He is marvelously wealthy and owns several houses. This has resulted, however, in an insatiable desire for more fame and admiration. The more you get, the more you want! Trump’s unusual confidence and an “I don’t care” attitude make him the perfect example of a narcissist. Also, he has his name all over the “Trump World”, be it the buildings or his planes which were named the “Trump Shuttle”. Add to those is Trump Sales, Trump Restaurants, Trump Mortgage, Trump University, Trump Books, etc.
#8: Adolf Hitler
Adolf was a great visionary and had multitudes of followers. But he was also known for being self-centered, thirsty of power and control. He was also extremely manipulative. He made people believed in him just as much as he believed in himself. All those killings and “cleansing”, and creating the perfect race, he still thinks that he’s doing the right thing.
#9: Joseph Stalin
”By his word he could kill them, have them tortured, have them rescued again, have them rewarded. Life and death depended on his whim.”
The psychoanalyst Erich Fromm used these words to describe the ”refined sadism” of Josef Stalin, who took delight in playing with the minds of his victims before he ordered the destruction of their bodies. Stalin was so preoccupied with having power, control, prestige and vanity that he put to jail or killed anyone who disagrees with him.
#10: Ted Bundy
Theodore (Ted) Bundy is perhaps the most well-known serial killer in the history of the United States between 1974 and 1978. He is believed to have kidnapped, assaulted and killed some thirty young women across several states. He also enjoyed being in the public eye. Toward the end of his life he even attempted to use his status to try to become a type of consulting criminal to help police solve other serial killing sprees!
Queen said, “Too much love can kill you”, and I believe it’s true. Have you ever heard the mythical figure Narcissus, who fell to his death while being transfixed by his own image? Though I don’t mean to say that you will actually die if you’re a narcissist, my point here is that being one can lead you to great opportunities like some of the people mentioned above. After all, being a narcissist means you’re oozing with self-confidence and that you have the potential of being a great leader.
But all those self-love can also be the cause of your downfall. A narcissistic person has little or no empathy towards others and tends to look down on people because he believes that he is superior, and feels no remorse about it. No one likes being abused by a self-absorbed person with zero empathy. Some even suffers from severe cases like NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).
So the bottom line is; for all the love you’re giving to yourself, don’t forget to extend that feeling to the people around you.